Words are Gifts

A Birthday Snap

When P has an invitation these days it’s everybody’s issue. We have to listen, she knows she has to get us involved in the dropping and picking up, so the announcement happens early.

P my ninth grader’s life is different now she is in boarding school, so are her friendships. I remember writing about her first date a couple of years ago.

I had that deja vu this morning so I thought to go back and read that slice and compare her first date to this outing.

This time, P’s male classmate was celebrating his birthday and was allowed to invite a few of his friends out for a meal. P went through the trying on of outfits. She settled on a quaint, floral dress very quickly, but the shoes! She went through her high heels, mum’s high slip ons and the flat mustard sandals (which did not match with her tiny yellow bag that was definitely going).

Dad was dropping her at the restaurant and picking her up afterwards. She arranged it all.

P had settled on her flat black sandals which was not one of her earlier choices. When she was all dressed and masked up, I asked for a photograph to be taken by the Christmas tree, but she run off.

She came back home excited! This time, not a word was shared about this exclusive birthday celebration.

I asked inquisitively,” Did you take any photos?”

“Hmmm yes Mum, no actually they were just snaps.” she knew she had lost me there.

“Can I see them?”

“Why Mum?” she muttered.

“I just want to see your friends and the restaurant.”

“Ok, I’ll see what I can do,” she promised.

I’m still waiting and I’ve been told snaps have a time limit. What a difference a couple of years make in a child’s life. I really miss the first date when I was more involved and P chatted all the way home about the restaurant experience.

6 responses to “A Birthday Snap”

  1. Yeah, that transition to semi independent near adult can be hard! Lucky for her dad to at least glimpse the location!

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  2. Oh yes, how quickly times change… I know this bereft feeling, longing for the former sharing. Sometimes it goes in cycles and a time may come when you have to guard your reaction to TOO MUCH sharing (my boys told me more than their dad; let’s just leave it at that!!). This post is really is a lovely little coming-of-age snapshot… or snap, one that remains. 🙂

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  3. I have mixed feelings about Snap and others being the primary place for our kids to be taking and sharing images (privacy issues, over-sharing, etc.), and yet, here we are in this day and age. Good luck, and I hope you get a peek at the photos.

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  4. How quickly they grow up. It is sometimes hard to accept the changes, but we know we must.

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  5. I hope “I’ll see what I can do” has delivered at least one photo for your viewing pleasure! Indeed, life is changing rapidly for our teens. Best wishes.

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    1. Yes! P shared a short video of the celebration.


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I am am Elementary school teacher at an International IB School in Accra, Ghana, West Africa. I write with groups of writers, such as Teach Write.


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